I learned this weekend why women struggle more often with knowing what they want then men.
We ask a million people for advice and opinions.
We all know women are communicators. We love to talk about our problems with our friends, families and sometimes even random people we meet. It’s one of our many bonding mechanisms.
But as Bethenny Frankel states, that creates a lot of NOISE.
Meaning you start to hear this opinion and that opinion and this advice and that advice and at the end of the day your own voice gets lost in the mix.
Asking for advice and opinions isn’t a bad thing. Of course, an outsiders perspective is always a great way to gain a new perspective on a problem but it shouldn’t be the entirety of what you base your decision on.
I will admit it. I am a serial advice asker. I ask everyone their opinions and suggestions on everything. Which has led to a path where even finding where my own voice was located was tough.
This weekend I had what Oprah likes to call an “A-HA Moment!”
Realizing that asking everyone and anyone advice on a problem that I was struggling with was only confusing me more. I had so many opinions and voices in my head that hearing my own voice was next to impossible.
That’s when it hit me. I needed to silence the noise that I had let in and listen to what I want and how I feel and the solution came just like that!
I think it is easy for girls,especially, to rely soley on their friends opinions and advice to help them navigate problems.
I mean how many times have you seen a group of guys sit around for HOURS and discuss how to solve a life problem? It’s not likely. It’s usually a quick five minute conversation and they are off to talking about sports or some odd new topic.
Moral of the story. Ask a few people for advice and then listen to your own. Never let the voice of anyone else trump your own. The more you listen to your own voice the more you will begin to have a true relationship with who you are.
HAPPY MONDAY EVERYONE xox
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