“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.”
– Iyanla Vanzant , Yesterday I Cried.
I feel as though this entire year, I have been questioning the identity of humanity.
I can’t grasp, how someone can be so full of anger, that they would walk into a movie theater, a mall or an elementary school and open fire on random people.
For whatever reason, our generation and maybe the generation before us, has a fear of feeling any emotion.
Think about it. Truly think about it. How do you handle your emotions?
Do you wear them on your sleeve and deal with them as the come OR do you tuck them away, so far deep, down inside, that no one can see them?
I’ll be honest, I tucker. I get up every morning put my fake smile on and head out to work. I have been struggling lately with my job, figuring out what I want to do and finding myself. It is hard and uncomfortable, but what is even more uncomfortable, is constantly feeling like you have to cover it all up, with this perfect happy smile.
Why are we so scared to feel pain? You can’t have light without dark, right?
Maybe, if we learned as a population to discuss problems and deal with feelings as they happen, they wouldn’t build up and pressurize inside us, until we hit the point of exploding. Instead of waiting 20 years to fix a problem, that could have easily been solved with, “I’m sorry, I didn’t know you felt that way”.
We are human and it’s ok to be sad, mad, frustrated and happy! We have emotions because we are human. Although, some of the emotions aren’t fun and hurt to feel, it makes happiness and the times we do feel happy, that much better.
This change in society won’t change over night and I am sure my one post won’t make a huge impact, but next time instead of tucking those emotions away and putting on your fake face, have the courage to show it. Even if its not that big of an emotion, maybe it will give someone that truly needs to talk about how they are feeling, the courage to speak up!
Just think, if we could learn to be accepting of our feelings and emotions. Learn how to navigate and overcome them, we might have a chance at limiting these horrific events. Instead letting feelings of hate and anger manifest into horrific actions, teach people to deal with and accept that feeling and feel it. Talk about it, learn from it and grow from it.