This past year has been a series of “No’s and your not good enough’s,” for me, career wise. I am fortunate to be someone, who has the vision of where I would like to go and what I would like to do and actually have the skills to be good at it.
However, no matter how hard I work, to prove my skill set or how much motivation I have to succeed, it doesn’t seem to be enough to encourage someone to just give me a chance. I wanted to write about this because most twenty-somethings I know, are experiencing the same thing, in some form or another.
We hear things such as:
- “You need more experience to have this position”
- An entry level position requires 2-3 years experience. (Oxymoron?)
- “It’s great you have done 3 unpaid internships in the past but in order to be considered for a position with our company you need to do OUR unpaid internship.” (What?)
- ” We decided to go a different direction”
- After a few months of waiting..” We decided to postpone filling this position until further notice”
You get the drift.
It has been a struggle learning how to not let this repetitive, negativity bring me down and make me feel not worthy of my dreams and desires. To teach myself how to listen to the inner voice, telling me to keep going and trying and eventually it will happen.
The best way, I have found to cope with it, is just to allow their negativity and their disbelief, to fuel my fire. Every time someone tells me no, I give myself a bit of time to be sad or mad and then I just tack it on to the list of people that someday, I am going to prove wrong.
Although, it breaks your heart every time you have to keep on dreamin. The Eli Young Band has a fantastic song, that I blast every time I am discouraged. It helps me pick myself up and find the courage to keep believing.
Everyone that has become successful, has had multiple people tell them they weren’t good enough over and over again but they never let it stop them. They just learned how to use it to fuel their fire and look at them now!
Just a few women to remind you, it didn’t just happen over night. They have struggled and worked their way through many “no’s” and “not good enough’s.” So keep your head up and stay positive!