How many girlfriends can you truly vent to about your significant other without them developing an anti-yourboyfriend complex?
Honestly, think about?
My experience with venting and speaking about problems with my relationship with most girls, is although they are there for me in the moment supporting my ranting and raging, they continue to carry this animosity past the fight limits.
He could bring me the moon or some rare diamond to make up for it, but girls seem to hold on to the negative things I said opposed to the fact that we worked through it and are on positive ground.
As girlfriends shouldn’t we be able to vent to each other without the fear of feeling overly judged?
Hence, I am on a mission to spread the boyfriend pact, which states this:
I promise to listen to you complain about your boyfriend even in the most dire terms, without it affecting my good opinion of him. I will agree with your harshest criticism, accept your gloomiest predictions. I will nod and furrow my brow and sigh when you describe him as a hideous ogre. Then when your fight is over and love shines again like a beautiful sunbeam in your life, I promise to forget everything you said and regard him as the most charming of princes once more.
We all make mistakes in relationships, we all have complaints and we are all just trying to make it through this big crazy world alive.
So, have your opinions about your friends relationships and speak to them regarding your concerns, because in fact your opinion does matter. But the end of the day remember it is their decision who they are with and what they do and respect them for it.
The boyfriend pact comes in handy because you want to be able to vent to your friend without having her actually start hating your boyfriend. You don’t really mean all those things you say and she, the swearer of the pact, knows this. When you are both partners in the pact you can talk about all ranges of topics without worrying and end up feeling SO MUCH BETTER.
A few of my girlfriends and I are this way and it is the best relationships I have. I highly suggest testing it out!